Thursday, June 27, 2013

if the Little Mermaid were a stay-at-home-mom

Today I felt like Ariel from the Little Mermaid. Minus the red hair, tiny waist and sea shell bikini.

But otherwise just like her.

Ariel had a good life. She was a princess, she had a loving father, lobster and fish.

Her hair looks awesome in the water. (Mine looks something like a wet sheep dog.)

But she wanted something different. Something more.

Durning the wisdom of my 16th year I watched this movie while I was babysitting a little girl and I thought '"Man, this Ariel is a horrible example! Why is she complaining when she has so much! What an immature teenager." (The irony in thinking that last sentence at 16 years old still gets me.)

But now that I'm a little older (a hopefully mature) and sometimes i just want to tell Ariel, "Yeah girl, Itotally get what you're singing about!

I don't think Ariel wanted specifically more, I think she wanted something different. A change from everyday life. And can we really fault her for that? Don't we all want that sometimes?

Anyway, yesterday was one of those days.

A day that was just HARD. And exhausting. And frustrating. And what did I do that was so hard, exhausting and frustrating? I played a million rounds of red light/green light, my awesome lunch of leftover popcorn and apple slices was interrupted by a 3 year old who took off his own poopy diaper, and my 4 month old really loved me; to the point of not being happy unless he was held.

I kept telling myself i should just count my blessings.

I have 2 great boys. A loving husband. Who has a great job. We have a home. We're healthy.

And I think really how much more could I want?

But like Ariel sang about, somedays I want more. Or something different.

We only have one car right now, so getting out of the house (other than a daily walk) isn't an everyday thing.

And so sometimes I feel so TRAPPED.

I know this is just a phase of our lives. I know my boys will grow up so fast and I'll yearn for these days again. But for right now, sometimes I feel like I might go crazy if I don't have SOME change.

And I think Ariel would totally understand that.

So here is my version of what she would sing if she were a SAHM.

(To the tune of Part of Your World")

Look at my life
Isn't it neat?
Wouldn't you think happiness' complete?
Wouldn't you think I'm the girl
The girl who has everything?
Look at this home
Memories untold
How many wonders can one little house hold?
Looking around here you think
Sure, she's got everything.

I've got little boys and dino toys aplenty
I've got fruit snacks and kisses galore
You want dirty diapers?
I've got twenty!
But who cares?
No big deal
I want more

I wanna be where other people are
I wanna hear, wanna hear them talkin'
Using those, those - what do you call 'em?
Oh - adjectives!

Being a mom, you don't get too far
Someone needs you all the time 
Going to Target alone - what's that called again?
Oh, heaven. 

Up where adults walk, up where they run
 Up where they don't pick up toys all day long
Wanderin' free - wish I could be
Part of that world

What would I give to sleep through the night?
What would I pay not to share my drink?

Bet'cha our toddlers don't understand
That they don't reprimand their mother's
Bright young women, tired of given'
 Their space up on the couch!

And ready to know what my kid is thinking
Ask 'em my questions and get some answers
Why can't they let me pee- what's the word?

When's it my turn?
Wouldn't I love- love to explore that world out my door?
Out of the house
A date with my spouse (no puke on my blouse)
Part of that world

Thanks Ariel. And all you SAHM's or dad's or grandparents or nannies etc who get this. :) 
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  2. I am a mom to six, with a great life, but I can so relate. Your song made me laugh.

  3. Hahahahahahaha! Totally get that. Love this and love you! You're hilarious.

  4. Oh Julia! I love your little diddy! Some days as a SAHM are so hard. I couldn't handle it anymore which is why i got a part time job. Not saying everyone should do that, but that is really what I needed. It's gotta be hard being stuck with just one car. And play dates honestly only get you so far...there are still kids that need taking care of. :( I wish we still lived by each other so i could come and pick you all up in our van. Miss you like crazy!

    You should definitely record your song and post it on youtube with a fun music video! Kind of like those "I'm a Daddy and I Know it" parody.

  5. You made me smile. Hang in there, I know I'm trying to.

  6. Laughing so hard. Love this!! And ain't it the truth!

  7. Julia, this is exactly what i needed to vread v brighvvvnowe.... yeah 'read right now' is what it was going to say before the tiny fingers lunged for the keyboard. Haha. I rest my case. Thank you for reminding me that the sudden urge to drive around the block and wave hello to random adults is not completely insane.

  8. I just had to comment, because you just described my life. We were (until last Monday) a one car family, and it is SO SO SO hard. I have spent almost my entire time in Phoenix isolated and lonely and frustrated. I have been looking for a way to be myself again, and it's been SO difficult. That being said, we finally gave in and purchased an additional vehicle, and it's such a relief to be able to just go places on my own schedule and (hopefully) start making some friends. What I'm saying is, I've been there, I'm with you, I'm sorry, it's hard.

  9. A-MEN!! Hoping you get some mommy alone time soon!!

  10. This is the best song!!! You did a great job. I'm not a mom, but I can see how it would be really frustrating. I think everyone feels that kind of longing when they "grow up" & the days all kinda start to look exactly the same. I know I do!

  11. Hardest job in the world, raising children! Can I recommend MOPS for you gals! Mothers of Preschoolers....meets twice a month, incredible speakers brought in. Huge encouragement for Mothers of Preschoolers. Can not say enough positive things about it! Carol

  12. Hahaha! Totally get this! And the worst part is, when you feel guilty about it. So it's nice to know I'm not alone. Thanks, you made my day!

  13. This is so beyond awesome, I really have no words. that song is stuck in my head. ;)

  14. I just saw this on Pinterest and I'm so glad I clicked and read this post, loved it!! Thanks for the smile!

  15. I just saw this on Pinterest and I'm so glad I clicked and read this post, loved it!! Thanks for the smile!

  16. :) Chin up girl. I know exactly what you're going through. I actually started my blog and business for just this reason. I've been without a car and at home with my 2 for 3 years. Most of E's life and all of E-2's life. It's especially tough when you can't go anywhere to escape the house and keep the kids occupied. 40 rounds of Go Fish is enough to break anyone! lol. My only suggestion which is advice I need to take myself is to be sure to take time for yourself but also remember this is just a season and all too soon they won't need us for everything.

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